Are any of these questions, yours?
¨Some days I feel I know what I want. I feel like it is the time I move on and end this so called marriage. Other days, I wonder. Am I the one that is wrong? I still care for him. I am not sure it is love anymore. I have been thinking about this for a few years now. Other couples do have issues too, right? Is this only temporary? I am with him for good reasons. Can it become better again?
Am I making a mistake? This will affect the kids. I don’t want to rush things and make this decision too lightly…¨
THEN, obviously, you are not ready to divorce yet.
Most probably you need to clarify if you should continue. You need a better understanding of who you are, what you want and probably try a little more to make your marriage work. With a clearer view and having tried your best, knowing what to try, will help you have a better understanding if you should leave or not.
I suggest you learn from experts the right questions to ask yourself. Learn what is killing your marriage and what to do about it. Is it you or your spouse doing the wrong things. Are you wondering if it is you the problem?
As a first step, I recommend that you do some basic homework to try to evaluate your situation. Going right away to a marriage counselor might be expensive and will require a lot of expensive consulting if you are very confused.
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After following the system suggested, if you still can get your marriage working you will most certainly have a very clear view. Then, you will know if spending time and money with a marriage counselor will help or you better start a divorce process.